revamped the router reading section

reference counting for crypto pk env's (so we can dup them)

we now read and write pem pk keys from string rather than from FILE*,
  in anticipation of fetching directories over a socket
  (so now on startup we slurp in the whole file, then parse it as a string)

fixed a bug in the proxy side, where you could get some circuits
  wedged if they showed up while the connection was being made


svn:r110