Can we simplify and clarify click-to-play of audio/video?

Right now click-to-play of videos is quite cumbersome and has poor usability. For example on youtube, this is what I observe on Medium Security.

• On first page load, no video or audio is visible -- the video box is gray. A "musical notes" icon appears in the middle of the video box, and an "orbiting dots" indicator seems to indicate some problem loading. After a few seconds the video box goes black and it says "an error occured." Then after another few seconds the "musical notes" icon reappears.

• If I click on the "musical notes" icon, then a confirmation box appears, that says "Temporarily allow ... [URLs and codec gibberish]". If I click OK, then the whole page reloads. Again I get a gray video box with orbiting dots. This time there is a film canister icon in the middle of the dots.

• If I click on the film canister it says, "Temporarily allow [URL and more codec gibberish]". again I click OK, the page reloads and the video finally plays.

So here, click-to-play required two clicks and two reloads (plus confirmation clicks). Ideally it should require only one reload. The option to click to play the video should be much more clear (it should probably have the text "Click to Play"). The click-to-play button shouldn't disappear when the youtube page tries to re-load the video. If a confirmation prompt is to be shown, then it should clearly explain to the user that video/audio is about to be loaded, and what the security concerns are.