relay: Don't trigger an address discovery without an ORPort

We would before do an address discovery and then a lookup in the cache if not
found which is now simplified by calling relay_find_addr_to_publish() directly
which does all those combined.

Furthermore, by doing so, we won't trigger an address discovery every minute
if we have no ORPort configured for the family.

Fixes #40254

Signed-off-by: David Goulet <dgoulet@torproject.org>